How to Say “I Hate You” in Japanese (5 Different Ways)


How to Say I Hate You in Japanese Kirai 嫌い Daikirai 大嫌い Nikumu 憎む Uramu 怨む

I hope you don’t intend to use this phrase too often, but just in case today’s free lesson is about how to sayI hate youin Japanese. At the end of this post, you will actually be able to talk about all kinds of things that you hate or dislike in Japanese. But first, let’s start with the basic Japanese words that you can use to say “I hate you“.

The two words “Kirai” (嫌い) and “Daikirai” (大嫌い) are used to say “I hate you” in Japanese. Kirai means “disliked”, “hated”, or “disagreeable”, while daikirai, the stronger version, translates as “detestable”, “abhorrent”, or “loathsome”. You can also use the full sentence “Anata ga kirai” (あなたが嫌い).

Below I will cover 5 different words that you can use to say “I hate you” in Japanese. After the detailed answer and in-depth explanation, we will look at two related phrasesI don’t like you” and “I don’t hate you“. You can also find a lot of example sentences at the end including often requested translations such as “I hate myself“, “I hate him/her“, or “I hate math/school“.

I hope by studying these phrases you will get rid of your frustration and anger!

How to Say “I Hate You” in Japanese

In Japanese, there are quite a bunch of words that you can use to say that you hate someone or something. The two most commonly known words are kirai (嫌い) which translates as “hate” and daikirai (大嫌い) which means “hate a lot“. Daikirai is an extremely strong word so be careful when you use it!

  • kirai (嫌い) – hate, hated, disliked, disagreeable
  • daikirai (大嫌い) – hate a lot, detestable, abhorrent, loathsome

Kirai!
嫌い!
I hate you!

Daikirai!
大嫌い!
I (really) hate you!

In contrast to English, it is common to omit the words “I” and “you”. That’s why just by saying either one of these words you already get the complete phraseI hate you“. However, if you want you can add “you” explicitly by saying “Anata ga kirai” (あなたが嫌い) or “Anata ga daikirai” (あなたが大嫌い).

Anata ga kirai!
あなたが嫌い!
I hate you!

Anata ga daikirai!
あなたが大嫌い!
I (really) hate you!

In case you are a man and you want to sayI hate youto a Japanese girl or woman you should usekimi” (君) instead of anata. So the full sentence would be “Kimi ga kirai” (君が嫌い) or “Kimi ga daikirai” (君が大嫌い).

The 3 other words I want to teach you today are: nikui (憎い), nikumu (憎む), and uramu (怨む, 恨む). Let’s take a look at their translations and how to use them in a Japanese sentence to say “I hate you“.

  • nikui (憎い) – hate, hateful, abominable, detestable
  • nikumu (憎む) – to hate, to detest
  • uramu (怨む, 恨む) – to bear a grudge against, to resent, to curse

Anata ga nikui.
あなたが憎い。
I hate you.

Anata o nikumu.
あなたを憎む。
I hate you.

Anata o uramu.
あなたを怨む。
I hate you

In comparison to kirai (嫌い) and daikirai (大嫌い), the other 3 words are definitely less often used in real life as well as in anime, manga, Japanese movies, and Japanese drama. So I recommend you to stick with the first two words and phrases we covered!

Just in case you want to make “I hate yousound more polite adddesu” (です) at the end of your words or sentences: “Kirai desu” (嫌いです), “Daikirai desu” (大嫌いです), “Anata ga kirai desu” (あなたが嫌いです).

“I Don’t Like You” in Japanese

Anata ga kirai” (あなたが嫌い) is quite a strong way to say “I don’t like you” in Japanese since it expresses hate towards the other person. The better phrase would be “Anata ga suki ja nai” (あなたが好きじゃない) or “Anata no koto suki ja nai” (あなたのこと好きじゃない).

Anata ga kirai.
あなたが嫌い。
I don’t like you (very strong)

Anata ga suki ja nai.
あなたが好きじゃない。
I don’t like you.

Anata no koto suki ja nai.
あなたのこと好きじゃない。
I don’t like you.

You can also make the phrase more polite or more formal by using “ja arimasen” (じゃありません) or “dewa arimasen” (ではありません).

Anata ga suki ja arimasen.
あなたが好きじゃありません。
I don’t like you.

Anata no koto suki ja arimasen.
あなたのこと好きじゃありません。
I don’t like you.

Anata ga suki dewa arimasen.
あなたが好きではありません。
I don’t like you.

Anata no koto suki dewa arimasen.
あなたのこと好きでわありません
I don’t like you.

For the opposite phrase “I like you”, you can check out my other blog post: 5 Ways to Say “I Like You” in Japanese (Suki vs Daisuki).

“I Don’t Hate You” in Japanese

Anata no koto wa kirai dewa nai” (あなたのことは嫌いではない) is the most commonly used phrase to say “I don’t hate you” in Japanese. When adding desu (です) or replacing “nai” with “arimasen” (ありません) the sentence becomes more polite. Another commonly used phrase is “Anata o nikundeimasen” (あなたのこと憎んでいません).

Anata no koto wa kirai dewa nai.
あなたのことは嫌いではない。
I don’t hate you (casual)

Anata no koto wa kirai dewa nai desu.
あなたのことは嫌いでわないです。
I don’t hate you (more polite)

Anata no koto wa kirai dewa arimasen.
あなたのことわ嫌いでわありません。
I don’t hate you (more polite)

Anata no koto nikundeinai.
あなたのこと憎んでいない。
I don’t hate you (casual)

Anata no koto nikundeimasen.
あなたのこと憎んでいません。
I don’t hate you (more polite)

Example Sentences of How to Use “I Hate…” in Japanese

Kirai (desu)
I hate you
嫌い(です)
Daikirai (desu)
I hate you so much
大嫌い(です)
Jibun ga kirai
I hate myself
自分が嫌い。
Mou konna jibun wa iya da
I hate myself
もうこんな自分は嫌だ。
Kare ga kirai
I hate him
彼が嫌い。
Kanojo ga kirai
I hate her
彼女が嫌い。
Aitsu ga kirai
I hate that guy
アイツが嫌い。
Jinsei ga kirai
I hate my life
人生が嫌い。
Natsu ga kirai desu
I hate summer
夏が嫌いです。
Fuyu ga kirai desu
I hate winter
冬が嫌いです。
Gakkou ga kirai desu
I hate school
学校が嫌いです。
Suugaku ga kirai desu
I hate math
数学が嫌いです。
Toku ni supootsu ga kirai desu
I especially hate sports
特にスポーツが嫌いです。
Benkyou ga kirai desu
I hate studying
勉強が嫌いです。
Usotsuki ga kirai
I hate liars
嘘つきが嫌い。
Uso ga daikirai
I hate lies
嘘が大嫌い。
Minna ga kirai
I hate everyone
みんなが嫌い。
Anatagata ga kirai desu
I hate you all
あなた方が嫌いです。
Nande mo kande mo kirai da
I hate everything
なんでもかんでも嫌いだ。
Anata o aishiteiru jibun ga kirai
I hate myself for loving you
あなたを愛している自分が嫌い。
Anata o aishiteiru jibun ga nikui
I hate that I love you
あなたを愛している自分が憎い。
Kirai dakedo aishiteiru
I hate you but I love you
嫌いだけど愛している。
How to Use “I hate…” in Japanese – Example Sentences

Alex (RockinJapanese)

おはよう. I'm Alex. I have started studying Japanese when I was still a high school student and I have been living and working in Japan since 2015. I'm still learning new Japanese phrases and words every day and I thought that publishing them online will be useful for you, too. Hopefully, my study notes and free Japanese lessons will help you to reach the Japanese level you want to have! If you have any questions feel free to contact me anytime! Alex

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